A Caregiver's Manual For Being Prepared For That Call in the Night

For the last 20 years, I have helped clients plan for(umbrella policies)
their "golden years", including how they will address2. Copy of mortgage and home equity loan
the issues of aging and remaining independent. Andstatements
now I am personally experiencing it myself; I am the3. Copy of auto title, loan/lease, and insurance
Designated Daughter with my own parents. Becausedocuments
my parents and I had "the important conversations"4. Copy of statements for gas, electric, water,
and did the proper planning, I was prepared when Iwaste management, telephones, etc.
received that 'Call in the Night'. Part of creating the5. Home maintenance file to include repair receipts,
life of your dreams is making sure you address all thephone number of repairmen, warrantees, and
"what ifs" in your life. Skipping this step could createappliance insurance.
unpleasant complications that might be avoided. OurStep Two ~ Discovery
parents and loved ones are living longer and we needYour documentation is organized. Breathe a sigh of
to know how this may affect our lives and berelief! Next, you'll need to have a series of important
prepared with a plan. Take a look at these statistics:oconversations with your loved one and other family
When Social Security, Medicare & Medicaid weremembers including:o What do they think they want
designed, life expectancy was 63.o Our fastestfor their long term care?o What are their needs as
growing population is age 85 plus and 50% may havethey are aging and who can provide it?o How do
some form of Alzheimer's.o By 2030, 70 million peoplethey want to handle their money and property as
in the US, or 1-in-5 people, will be age 65.o Another 1their lifestyle changes?o What kind of legacy do they
million people will be 100 years old.o The need forwant to create for themselves?
healthcare and related services is exploding!*All of this may take a number of conversations. Try
According to USA Today:o 60% of US caregivers areasking if you can talk about these things in general
femaleo 66% are married or living with a partnero 45terms because you are doing your own future
is the average age of US caregiverso 77 is theplanning for college savings or retirement. Ask for
average age of the care recipiento 41% oftheir help to assess their situation and welcome their
caregivers have children under the age of 18 atinput on solutions. Role play a bit... Try talking about
homeo 52% of caregivers are employed full timehow they would feel if they had to make these
Learn how to be prepared, how to talk to yourdecisions for you instead? Ask what their friends are
parents or loved ones, what you and they should dodoing about these types of things? Patience is key
to make sure your lives continue to run smoothly andhere! The most important thing is to really take a
how to avoid costly mistakes.look with them at their values, lifestyle and spiritual
Step One ~ Get Organized!picture as they ultimately have to "own" the
You'll need to gather together the following: One filingsolutions.
cabinet, complete with hanging file and manila folders;Next, you're ready to select the individuals you want
a copy of all important documents; a large three-ringon the caregiving team. Include any that apply: family
binder with big tab dividers; and a colored marker.members, doctors, home care specialist, attorney,
Use the binder to store copies of importantcertified elder law specialists, insurance agents,
documents. Label the document title on the tabbrokers, CPA, caregivers, certified financial planner,
divider. This will come in handy should you need totherapist, etc. Many of these professionals are
transport documents. Using your marker, write ontrained to help families deal with health, financial, and
the back of each document where the original issocial issues in a holistic way.
stored (i.e. Will stored in safe deposit box and sonStep Three ~ Create a Financial Plan
John has the key.) Have a section on beneficiariesSit down with a certified financial planner and develop
that lists all documents with appointed beneficiaries.a financial plan that addresses the following:
Always keep this section current.Financial Position:o Create a cash flow statement
Next, organize your file cabinet. If you don't want towhich breaks down income and expenses.o
store original documents in your file cabinet, note theDetermine your net worth by listing assets and
original's location in the appropriate file. Create theliabilities.
following titles for your hanging files and store itemsIncome Taxes:o Review tax situation for capital gains
under each category in labeled manila folders.losses with real estate or stocks.o Discuss inherited
Important InformationIRA status vs. pension /profit sharing plans.
1. Location of safe deposit box and keyInvestments:o Analyze investments for quality,
2. Passwords for debit card, online accounts,safety, income needs, tax situation, etc.o Are
computer, and voicemailinvestments manageable, properly diversified, or all
3. Armed forces documentsover the place?
4. Birth and marriage certificatesRetirement:o Establish amount of assets necessary
5. Names and phone numbers of your attorney, CPA,to meet your lifetime income needs.o Project
financial planner, broker, and insurance agentsretirement income needs in several situations (i.e.
6. Copy of tax returns and winter/summer taxhome care/assisted living, utilizing long-term care
assessmentsinsurance benefits if applicable.
7. Copy of Social Security Estimate StatementEstate:o Review documents and analyze current
Legal Planningestate plan.o Verify beneficiaries on life insurance,
1. Copy of will and trustsannuities, retirement plans, & 401Ko Decide what
2. Copy of life and unemployment insurance policiesyou need and desire for financial independence. How
3. Durable Power of Attorney (DPOA) documentsmuch will you leave for a family legacy? How will you
4. Prepaid funeral and burial arrangements/plan forallocate your social legacy regarding gift and tax?
pet relocation and expenses.Protection:o Assess cash flow projections and
Banking/Investmentsalternate scenarios regarding disability, long-term care,
1. Copy of each credit card with contact phoneand premature death.
numberStep Four ~ Meet with Your Team and Create a Plan
2. Divide out by financial institution a copy of bankNow that you've got everything in place, sit down
statements, brokerage accounts, annuities, IRA's,with your caregiving team members and develop a
stock/bond certificates, and dividend reinvestmentplan of action that satisfies your loved ones' goals,
plans (DRIP)values, and objectives. The final product should
3. Copy of retirement plans and investment realenable you all to maintain your dignity, lifestyle, and
estate documentsassets. In addition, the plan should be clear, concise,
4. Copy of "Survivor's" Pension Benefit (what willeasy to manage, and tax efficient. It should also
surviving spouse receive after the retiree dies?)acknowledge the needs of whoever becomes the
Medicalmain caregiver.
1. Name and phone numbers of physicians, dentist,The benefits of early planning are numerous,
and pharmacy (list prescriptions)including:o clarifying your loved ones wisheso
2. Copy of medical insurance card and benefitsidentifying the best possible resourceso minimizing
guidebookconfusion and stress during times of crisiso increasing
3. Long term care and disability insurance policiesoverall peace of mind
4. Patient Advocate Designation document. GiveThe end result...everyone involved is able to sleep at
primary care physician a copynight knowing all concerns have been addressed and
5. Copy of Medicare card and account numberthat a team and a plan is in place to accommodate all
Householdthose "what ifs".
1. Copy of home deed, homeowners insurance